New Life, Ex-Wife Part 1. . .

I used to go by “anonymous”, then I grew into “anonymous no more” on a Betrayed Wives Club website. Now I am ME, Cyndie Bryant. How did it get to here?

On the last day of September 2016, I looked at my husband’s tablet and saw these words, “I Miss you Mark,” “I Miss you too Sharon,” “I Love you Mark,” “I love you too Sharon.”

Well, since my name is Cyndie I knew this wasn’t me! (Sarcasm -101). My husband of 20 years, had been having a three-year affair (oops, she wrote that in one of her messenger tests herself) with another women. Another ALSO married women. Three years ago, I caught him having an emotional affair, or on-line affair as he called it with this same women. He and she were texting each other, first on Facebooks messenger (she sent him a late night text that said, “I’m back”. I asked him where she had been!) He claimed it was simple flirting, he’d stop immediately. Then a few months later, there she was again, this time on the cell phone I bought him as a surprise birthday gift (it took me a few months to “catch on”). His son worked with him at the time and was teasing him about who he was texting so much….of course, he was told “Cyndie, who else”? Texting back and forth 1700 times in July, 2000 times in August…..and it went on and upwards until I caught them in January by seeing the phone bill (yes, I have the originals). He tried to lie, saying it was some male friend of his that liked to send porn back and forth. Well, it was a “friend” all right, her name was S Sinclair. I finally dragged it out of him and verified that it was her cell phone. Continue reading “New Life, Ex-Wife Part 1. . .”

 

To My Homewrecker, My Ex-Husband

To my home wrecker , my ex-husband. They say people cheat because they are missing something at home, physical affection , sexual gratification , mental connection / understanding , well what was your excuse? Because even though we had more than 1 handful of children to raise ( your’s from you previous relationship’s and mine from my previous relationship and our’s ) I always found time to be the loving supportive wife and mother to you all , I was exhausted most nights after you would go to work at midday and not come home until your shift ended around 11pm.

Weekdays were filled with our children coming home from school and the normal routines home work , afternoon tea , play time , bath time , dinner time , bed time , then making sure you ate when you came home from work and when you were in the mood satisfying you in bed before sleep. We Continue reading “To My Homewrecker, My Ex-Husband”

 

My Father’s Betrayal

The following was copied from my daughters post today. It broke my heart to read. How can the man who was supposed to love and protect her continue to hurt her every chance he gets.

Daughters Facebook Post

NEED EVERY PRAYER OUT THERE POSSIBLE PLEASE!!!! I am not a person that posts personal matters on Facebook, only thing I share a lot is about stress in school or my happy relationship. But what a lot of people don’t know is my home life. Everyone on here probably thinks I am privileged, spoiled, or rich. In reality I am not. During High school I was honored for my father to switch me his GI Bill benefits meaning I had practically an 80% full ride to further my education. By having these benefits I chose one of the best colleges ever in Texas, not a public institute but a Private institute. Since 80% is covered why not go big!

Once High School graduation night came around my father had driven in from his stationed area and attended my graduation. That night as we had went home to celebrate Continue reading “My Father’s Betrayal”

 

I Am NOT The “Crazy Ex-Wife”

Have you ever wonder why some ex’s feel the need to treat you and your kids like you’re just sucking every penny they earn? Do they know how much it cost to raise a child? Not just one but two. Why is it that every year single moms get stripped down and get called money grabbing “crazy ex-wife”? When all you’re trying to do is not be in poverty because someone wasn’t happy. There are some people in this world who just want to be able to move past things but then constantly get hit over and over because some one doesn’t want to do their job as a parent. Being a single mom for almost 3 years and at this point I only am fighting for my kids and I to stay afloat. I am not asking to be rich while the other suffers. I am not trying to be that “crazy ex-wife” who just takes and takes and takes. I just want to be able to move past what has happened and be able to enjoy life without having to worry if a kid gets sick then I lose money on my next paycheck to support my kids. Continue reading “I Am NOT The “Crazy Ex-Wife””

 

An Open Letter To Married Couples With Children

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*The title says married but this is to any couple with children*

So you’ve been married for quite a while, and things are just not the same.  You went from having sex all the time, to maybe once a week if you’re lucky. Perhaps your wife gained a few pounds, or your husband has a beer belly.  Maybe you’re so tired from running the kids all day long, that you no longer have time for one another.  Or maybe you both work full-time and you don’t get to see each other often.  Your marriage is struggling and you feel as though your partner is neglecting you, you feel unwanted and unappreciated to the point that you don’t know why you’re in this marriage anymore. . .But you’ve been together for a long time and you have children. . .

Lately, your co-worker has been shamelessly flirting with you.  I mean you do deserve some attention, someone to listen to you, don’t you?  I mean what is wrong with you making new friends,  what harm could a little flirting really do?  It’s just innocent banter with the opposite sex, Continue reading “An Open Letter To Married Couples With Children”

 

After 22 Years Of Marriage, I Filed For Divorce

My husband and I are still legally married. He moved out 2 weeks ago.  We have been married 22 years and the last 3 years have been tough.  As for what I know, it all started with him on social media he is in the military and enjoyed chatting about fitness and joining different groups.  We have 2 children. They are 16 and 9. The kids are very active in school and athletics so to say the least, I have a full plate.  

I discovered he was having more than just fitness chats. I confronted him and he said he was sorry, got off the site and he said he wanted to show me that his intentions were not to leave, just went too far.  Things were good and we started date nights and focused on making sure we communicated better.  He eventually started being distant and carrying his phone everywhere. He was not making an effort Continue reading “After 22 Years Of Marriage, I Filed For Divorce”