New Life, Ex-Wife Part 1. . .

I used to go by “anonymous”, then I grew into “anonymous no more” on a Betrayed Wives Club website. Now I am ME, Cyndie Bryant. How did it get to here?

On the last day of September 2016, I looked at my husband’s tablet and saw these words, “I Miss you Mark,” “I Miss you too Sharon,” “I Love you Mark,” “I love you too Sharon.”

Well, since my name is Cyndie I knew this wasn’t me! (Sarcasm -101). My husband of 20 years, had been having a three-year affair (oops, she wrote that in one of her messenger tests herself) with another women. Another ALSO married women. Three years ago, I caught him having an emotional affair, or on-line affair as he called it with this same women. He and she were texting each other, first on Facebooks messenger (she sent him a late night text that said, “I’m back”. I asked him where she had been!) He claimed it was simple flirting, he’d stop immediately. Then a few months later, there she was again, this time on the cell phone I bought him as a surprise birthday gift (it took me a few months to “catch on”). His son worked with him at the time and was teasing him about who he was texting so much….of course, he was told “Cyndie, who else”? Texting back and forth 1700 times in July, 2000 times in August…..and it went on and upwards until I caught them in January by seeing the phone bill (yes, I have the originals). He tried to lie, saying it was some male friend of his that liked to send porn back and forth. Well, it was a “friend” all right, her name was S Sinclair. I finally dragged it out of him and verified that it was her cell phone. Continue reading “New Life, Ex-Wife Part 1. . .”

 

My Father’s Betrayal

The following was copied from my daughters post today. It broke my heart to read. How can the man who was supposed to love and protect her continue to hurt her every chance he gets.

Daughters Facebook Post

NEED EVERY PRAYER OUT THERE POSSIBLE PLEASE!!!! I am not a person that posts personal matters on Facebook, only thing I share a lot is about stress in school or my happy relationship. But what a lot of people don’t know is my home life. Everyone on here probably thinks I am privileged, spoiled, or rich. In reality I am not. During High school I was honored for my father to switch me his GI Bill benefits meaning I had practically an 80% full ride to further my education. By having these benefits I chose one of the best colleges ever in Texas, not a public institute but a Private institute. Since 80% is covered why not go big!

Once High School graduation night came around my father had driven in from his stationed area and attended my graduation. That night as we had went home to celebrate Continue reading “My Father’s Betrayal”

 

You Will Never Trust Him Again

So your husband cheated on you and you have made the decision to save your marriage.  Perhaps it is because you love him so much.  Or maybe you are comfortable in your marriage, have children.  Whatever the reason is, you have decided to make it work, to forgive him.  To pick up the pieces of your life and try to move forward.

I am not here to tell you to leave your cheating husband, nor am I here to tell you it is not possible to move forward. The truth is, you can move forward.  You may even end up living a relatively happy life, but, and here is the but.  You will NEVER be able to trust him again.  Sure you will talk to others and they will say that trust has to be earned and eventually you will be able to trust again. That sounds good Continue reading “You Will Never Trust Him Again”

 

Dear Homewrecker,

I’ve thought long and hard about what I’d say if I ever got to write to you and I think I’ve finally got it. You came legs wide, lips ready, and arms wide open into my marriage. You knew who I was and you knew he was married and you for sure knew he already started a family, since you had seen us how many times when we would go to your place of work to eat. But none of that mattered to you, and that seriously blows my mind! How do you not feel like a piece of shit for sleeping with someone’s husband whether he was wearing his ring or not? HE IS STILL MARRIED!!! And the whole time you were hanging all over him and kissing him etc HIS WIFE (me) was at our home taking care of our son.

I can’t for the life of me understand how or why you were ok with ripping my family apart, and sending my entire world crashing down around me. I married Continue reading

 

Dear Frosty Floozy,

I don’t expect you to reply to this but it’s a part of my attempt at healing. I know how much in denial you are about the whole situation for reasons I don’t know. Maybe you’re ashamed, feel guilty or its to save face but the fact remains I KNOW what you and my husband did. No woman texts someone else’s husband “we need to talk”. No woman calls someone else’s husband since I heard you on speaker phone and says “It’s no ones business what we did.”

Well as his wife it is my business and it is your workplace’s Continue reading

 

Read Her Letter To Her Homewrecker

B,

In all the time that has passed I have come to realize that if you were able to keep secrets like you did for years & have a twisted loyalty to someone else, that you were capable of doing so much more for me as my husband & as a father. You simply didn’t want to.

You put your time and attention into someone other than me and our family. You robbed me of affection, attention, compliments & most importantly love, loyalty and the value that I deserved. Continue reading

 

30 Years Stuck

I’ve been married for 30 years and I don’t love my husband anymore.  I caught him on porn sites because I installed a program in my computer.  When confronted he lied and blamed it on our adult son. He was emotionally abusive. He was in an emotional affair several years ago, but to this date, he won’t admit it. He’s also a controller with money. He had a 5 weeks sexual affair February/March 2015 and tells me he wants a divorce. He “opened” up to the girl he had an affair with but my own husband won’t talk to me. What should I do?

 

 

An Open Letter To Married Couples With Children

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*The title says married but this is to any couple with children*

So you’ve been married for quite a while, and things are just not the same.  You went from having sex all the time, to maybe once a week if you’re lucky. Perhaps your wife gained a few pounds, or your husband has a beer belly.  Maybe you’re so tired from running the kids all day long, that you no longer have time for one another.  Or maybe you both work full-time and you don’t get to see each other often.  Your marriage is struggling and you feel as though your partner is neglecting you, you feel unwanted and unappreciated to the point that you don’t know why you’re in this marriage anymore. . .But you’ve been together for a long time and you have children. . .

Lately, your co-worker has been shamelessly flirting with you.  I mean you do deserve some attention, someone to listen to you, don’t you?  I mean what is wrong with you making new friends,  what harm could a little flirting really do?  It’s just innocent banter with the opposite sex, Continue reading “An Open Letter To Married Couples With Children”

 

After 22 Years Of Marriage, I Filed For Divorce

My husband and I are still legally married. He moved out 2 weeks ago.  We have been married 22 years and the last 3 years have been tough.  As for what I know, it all started with him on social media he is in the military and enjoyed chatting about fitness and joining different groups.  We have 2 children. They are 16 and 9. The kids are very active in school and athletics so to say the least, I have a full plate.  

I discovered he was having more than just fitness chats. I confronted him and he said he was sorry, got off the site and he said he wanted to show me that his intentions were not to leave, just went too far.  Things were good and we started date nights and focused on making sure we communicated better.  He eventually started being distant and carrying his phone everywhere. He was not making an effort Continue reading “After 22 Years Of Marriage, I Filed For Divorce”

 

To Forgive and Move On

When my husband left for Afghanistan he was a loving and caring father to our 2 adult boys and a devoted husband for 25 years. We had been a military family our entire marriage and we’re used to separations and trials and knew not to take each other for granted. As we all know, no relationship is perfect but we were a very strong and happy couple. In the year that he was gone I worked as a pediatric nurse, I buried my father , went through chest biopsies when a lump was found, took my son to court when he got a DWI, tied yellow ribbons on all of our trees and did all the things any other military wife does during a deployment.

Our emails are things of love stories, it was a great way to remember Continue reading “To Forgive and Move On”