I used to go by “anonymous”, then I grew into “anonymous no more” on a Betrayed Wives Club website. Now I am ME, Cyndie Bryant. How did it get to here?
On the last day of September 2016, I looked at my husband’s tablet and saw these words, “I Miss you Mark,” “I Miss you too Sharon,” “I Love you Mark,” “I love you too Sharon.”
Well, since my name is Cyndie I knew this wasn’t me! (Sarcasm -101). My husband of 20 years, had been having a three-year affair (oops, she wrote that in one of her messenger tests herself) with another women. Another ALSO married women. Three years ago, I caught him having an emotional affair, or on-line affair as he called it with this same women. He and she were texting each other, first on Facebooks messenger (she sent him a late night text that said, “I’m back”. I asked him where she had been!) He claimed it was simple flirting, he’d stop immediately. Then a few months later, there she was again, this time on the cell phone I bought him as a surprise birthday gift (it took me a few months to “catch on”). His son worked with him at the time and was teasing him about who he was texting so much….of course, he was told “Cyndie, who else”? Texting back and forth 1700 times in July, 2000 times in August…..and it went on and upwards until I caught them in January by seeing the phone bill (yes, I have the originals). He tried to lie, saying it was some male friend of his that liked to send porn back and forth. Well, it was a “friend” all right, her name was S Sinclair. I finally dragged it out of him and verified that it was her cell phone. Continue reading “New Life, Ex-Wife Part 1. . .”
They say there are 5 stages of grief after ending a relationship. Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression & Acceptance. However, I have only experienced 4 and mine are a little different. I have not hit the acceptance stage yet and to be honest, I am not too sure when or if I will. I have however experienced 4 stages and unfortunately, I find myself stuck in-between 3 & 4.
We have all been there, that moment of shock, the moment of utter disbelief. The moment when your ears feel as though they are clogging up and you can’t hear anything besides Continue reading “4 Stages of Heartbreak”
I finally did it, I am finally free. I am no longer living with a narcissistic sociopath who has cheated for years. I can’t explain exactly what happened, but something inside of me just snapped. It was as though I woke up one day, and just decided I was not going to live like this anymore. Of course he cheated, again, he always cheats, but this time I couldn’t even hold on for the kids. I just didn’t care, I was done, I was ready, it was time.
I wish I could say it was a smooth exit, but it wasn’t. He left willingly, although I don’t think he had any inkling this was it. I don’t think he had any idea I was done. He probably assumed I needed time to cool off. . . But, staying at that moment meant me hammering out the questions, he didn’t want to answer. Continue reading “10 Years Gone. . .”
I recently shared a letter to my husband. After some contemplation, I thought perhaps my story could help others in a similar situation, so her it goes.
I was 18 years old when I joined the Army. No one would have guessed that I would excel in the military, but I absolutely loved it. When I left for basic training, I had been seeing a sweet guy who didn’t understand the rigors of boot camp. When I couldn’t call him everyday, he thought that meant I no longer cared. He moved on and met someone else. While at the time, this didn’t actually seem to be too big of a deal, not long after that he was killed in a car accident in which he had been drinking and driving. When we were together, I wouldn’t allow him to drink and drive and I spent a lot of time later on wondering what might have been.
I was in my fourth year in the Army when I met the man I would later marry. He was cool, confident and honestly a challenge. I met him at an Army training event. He was a soldier too and at that point in my life, I had found that men who didn’t know that lifestyle, didn’t take kindly to it. Continue reading “I Deserve Better”
On April 1, 2015 I received the most heartbreaking life altering news you possibly could in a marriage. My husband hand been cheating on me with the w***e he rented his trailer to. I have so many things to say to her (I speak my mind to him daily about it) So here’s my letter to my HW.
A lot of people say you can’t wreck a home if the home is already wrecked. This is untrue. Granted, he and I had our ups and downs, but who doesn’t. When he decided to rent the trailer to you, I said Continue reading
I’ve been married for 30 years and I don’t love my husband anymore. I caught him on porn sites because I installed a program in my computer. When confronted he lied and blamed it on our adult son. He was emotionally abusive. He was in an emotional affair several years ago, but to this date, he won’t admit it. He’s also a controller with money. He had a 5 weeks sexual affair February/March 2015 and tells me he wants a divorce. He “opened” up to the girl he had an affair with but my own husband won’t talk to me. What should I do?
*The title says married but this is to any couple with children*
So you’ve been married for quite a while, and things are just not the same. You went from having sex all the time, to maybe once a week if you’re lucky. Perhaps your wife gained a few pounds, or your husband has a beer belly. Maybe you’re so tired from running the kids all day long, that you no longer have time for one another. Or maybe you both work full-time and you don’t get to see each other often. Your marriage is struggling and you feel as though your partner is neglecting you, you feel unwanted and unappreciated to the point that you don’t know why you’re in this marriage anymore. . .But you’ve been together for a long time and you have children. . .
Lately, your co-worker has been shamelessly flirting with you. I mean you do deserve some attention, someone to listen to you, don’t you? I mean what is wrong with you making new friends, what harm could a little flirting really do? It’s just innocent banter with the opposite sex, Continue reading “An Open Letter To Married Couples With Children”