You Will Never Trust Him Again

So your husband cheated on you and you have made the decision to save your marriage.  Perhaps it is because you love him so much.  Or maybe you are comfortable in your marriage, have children.  Whatever the reason is, you have decided to make it work, to forgive him.  To pick up the pieces of your life and try to move forward.

I am not here to tell you to leave your cheating husband, nor am I here to tell you it is not possible to move forward. The truth is, you can move forward.  You may even end up living a relatively happy life, but, and here is the but.  You will NEVER be able to trust him again.  Sure you will talk to others and they will say that trust has to be earned and eventually you will be able to trust again. That sounds good Continue reading “You Will Never Trust Him Again”

 

Thank You

To my Ex-husband:

It’s been almost four years since you asked me for a divorce. It also happened to be our anniversary, which you forgot. I shouldn’t really have been surprised since two days prior my best friend had to remind you that it was my birthday.You left me for a younger, prettier woman. I use the term woman loosely as in reality she was a girl. Eight years my junior and to borrow the term, a “cool girl.” I was so stupid that it was only after the divorce was final that I found out about her. Without sounding clichéd, but did you really have to pick her; my friend? A girl I mentored through her career and even allowed to live with us when she had nowhere else to turn? Funny how she didn’t last long. Did you really think a relationship based on deceit would? Continue reading “Thank You”

 

I Am NOT The “Crazy Ex-Wife”

Have you ever wonder why some ex’s feel the need to treat you and your kids like you’re just sucking every penny they earn? Do they know how much it cost to raise a child? Not just one but two. Why is it that every year single moms get stripped down and get called money grabbing “crazy ex-wife”? When all you’re trying to do is not be in poverty because someone wasn’t happy. There are some people in this world who just want to be able to move past things but then constantly get hit over and over because some one doesn’t want to do their job as a parent. Being a single mom for almost 3 years and at this point I only am fighting for my kids and I to stay afloat. I am not asking to be rich while the other suffers. I am not trying to be that “crazy ex-wife” who just takes and takes and takes. I just want to be able to move past what has happened and be able to enjoy life without having to worry if a kid gets sick then I lose money on my next paycheck to support my kids. Continue reading “I Am NOT The “Crazy Ex-Wife””

 

Dear Homewrecker,

I’ve thought long and hard about what I’d say if I ever got to write to you and I think I’ve finally got it. You came legs wide, lips ready, and arms wide open into my marriage. You knew who I was and you knew he was married and you for sure knew he already started a family, since you had seen us how many times when we would go to your place of work to eat. But none of that mattered to you, and that seriously blows my mind! How do you not feel like a piece of shit for sleeping with someone’s husband whether he was wearing his ring or not? HE IS STILL MARRIED!!! And the whole time you were hanging all over him and kissing him etc HIS WIFE (me) was at our home taking care of our son.

I can’t for the life of me understand how or why you were ok with ripping my family apart, and sending my entire world crashing down around me. I married Continue reading

 

Dear Frosty Floozy,

I don’t expect you to reply to this but it’s a part of my attempt at healing. I know how much in denial you are about the whole situation for reasons I don’t know. Maybe you’re ashamed, feel guilty or its to save face but the fact remains I KNOW what you and my husband did. No woman texts someone else’s husband “we need to talk”. No woman calls someone else’s husband since I heard you on speaker phone and says “It’s no ones business what we did.”

Well as his wife it is my business and it is your workplace’s Continue reading

 

Read Her Letter To Her Cheating Husband Here

Homewrecker,

First I want to say that I am not expecting you to care or even begin to grasp what I have to say in this letter.  The one question that keeps haunting me is how could YOU do this to me and my girls?  I realize there isn’t a good enough answer, the fact is YOU did it.

Some people might say R & I set up the perfect storm by trusting YOU both. However, I will not accept that. There is something wrong with YOUR characters if opportunity controls YOUR loyalty.

YOU knew how much I loved him and what I went through for him and with him.  He wasn’t YOURS to take, but I am also aware YOU couldn’t take what he wasn’t willing to give away. Instead of him looking inside himself he took the route that was clearly EASY & CONVENIENT! Continue reading

 

Read Her Letter To Her Homewrecker

B,

In all the time that has passed I have come to realize that if you were able to keep secrets like you did for years & have a twisted loyalty to someone else, that you were capable of doing so much more for me as my husband & as a father. You simply didn’t want to.

You put your time and attention into someone other than me and our family. You robbed me of affection, attention, compliments & most importantly love, loyalty and the value that I deserved. Continue reading

 

Dear Ex,

Although you gave me 2 beautiful children the next best thing you gave me was clarification, by having an affair. Wow really? With someone who when I tried giving you to her, turned you down because she didn’t want to be known as the mistress. She just wanted to be your secret and nothing else lol.

You fell once again for a psycho who lied her way into your heart. You claimed you loved me? No honey, you loved yourself. Thank you for being an ass but most of all thank Continue reading

 

Dear Homewrecker,

You don’t realize how much of a blessing you were in my life. While in your life, you thought he was your fairy tale, he in my life was actually a free-loading bum. I later invited you to his castle which was a fallen apart house on his mommy & daddy’s land once I learned of your love lol… Sadly, once I knew, you decided you liked being hidden rather than actually be noticed. While you pushed your damsel in distress on my husband, your husband found me on Facebook and told me of the affair.

Thank you for taking the weight I carried for so long with Continue reading

 

30 Years Stuck

I’ve been married for 30 years and I don’t love my husband anymore.  I caught him on porn sites because I installed a program in my computer.  When confronted he lied and blamed it on our adult son. He was emotionally abusive. He was in an emotional affair several years ago, but to this date, he won’t admit it. He’s also a controller with money. He had a 5 weeks sexual affair February/March 2015 and tells me he wants a divorce. He “opened” up to the girl he had an affair with but my own husband won’t talk to me. What should I do?