My husband and I are still legally married. He moved out 2 weeks ago. We have been married 22 years and the last 3 years have been tough. As for what I know, it all started with him on social media he is in the military and enjoyed chatting about fitness and joining different groups. We have 2 children. They are 16 and 9. The kids are very active in school and athletics so to say the least, I have a full plate.
I discovered he was having more than just fitness chats. I confronted him and he said he was sorry, got off the site and he said he wanted to show me that his intentions were not to leave, just went too far. Things were good and we started date nights and focused on making sure we communicated better. He eventually started being distant and carrying his phone everywhere. He was not making an effort to be involved with me and the kids and used his job as a crutch. I came home one day and didn’t say anything. He was on the patio supposed to be working out, but I saw him online. Sure enough he was on Google. He just got very mad and went on this rant about privacy and how he wasn’t attracted to me, my weight. He said everything to devalue me or make me feel that he was doing what he was because of me. He said it was nobody else but wanted to be single and still take care of kids.
Well, it was all lies. He didn’t want to work on these non-issues he created because he was making plans to replace me and I just didn’t know it. I filed for divorce Oct 12th and I am still waiting for his response. He talks to others and calls and tells me she just gives him advice. He is not the man I married and he is not doing what he is supposed to for the kids. He says I have to live and I will give you what I can. I have never been so hurt and betrayed in my life. I am getting myself together and realizing he has no intention of honoring his obligation to our children, but I trust God will provide. I wanted to tell my story and I read the other stories. I just don’t know what to expect and totally thought we could get past what others were calling a “midlife crisis”. I say they are choices he made.