I’ve been married for 30 years and I don’t love my husband anymore. I caught him on porn sites because I installed a program in my computer. When confronted he lied and blamed it on our adult son. He was emotionally abusive. He was in an emotional affair several years ago, but to this date, he won’t admit it. He’s also a controller with money. He had a 5 weeks sexual affair February/March 2015 and tells me he wants a divorce. He “opened” up to the girl he had an affair with but my own husband won’t talk to me. What should I do?